Friday, July 11, 2008

Why Do We Hold Onto the Past?

When I was chatting with online friends about this project, someone immediately brought up books and I have to admit they've been on my mind, too. Will I really be able to cull out half my books to give away?

I think so, and I'll post about it when I'm back at home, but you know the thing I'm really tripping up on?

My wedding dress.

Actually, dresses, but that's another post, LOL. The fact is I have two gorgeous (even 10 years later) wedding dresses that I can't seem to give away. I know I can keep them if I get rid of enough other stuff, but the question is, why would I? I'm not going to wear them again. My daughter will want the fun of trying a million on and buying her own. And yet I'm....attached to them.

I have other clothes like this, too. They are clothes that I wore when I was skinny and having a great time in life. They represent fun, flirtiness, youth, excitement.

I'll never wear them again, either, so why are they taking up room in my closet? Do I feel I'll lose my memories if I give them up? Will I forget that I was once young and fun and exciting?

Why don't I stop trying to hold onto the past and start trying harder to be fun and exciting now? Wouldn't that be more to the point?

That's going to be my mantra when I clean out my closet. I will ask each piece of clothing, "What are you going to do for me TODAY?"

But what on earth should I do about those wedding dresses? Should they stay or should they go? Vote with your comment below.


Cat said...

I am sure you have many fabulous photos of you wearing your beautiful wedding gown(s)... why not DONATE your gowns so that some other bride can look gorgeous on her wedding day? is a charity you can feel great about donating them's a win win for you! :)

~Cat aka Nakitty

2lilreds said...

I only have one, LOL, but I've kept it and will keep it. I'm a sentimental fool that way, I guess. My girls love to look at it, and I don't know that they will want to wear it at their own weddings, but I am sure they will try it on at some point.

If you really don't want to keep them, I'd check out that site Cat mentioned.

Jules said...

I wore my mom's wedding dress. Maybe your daughter will want to wear yours. That is a tough one. I love your half idea and looking forward to the book!